”We look for those who are going to be preyed upon and get to them before anyone else does.” Were the words used to describe what the Christian Community did. “We can tell which the vulnerable are by the way they walk, talk, and hold themselves.” The vulnerable in this context were new inmates coming into prison. These were the men that the predators preyed upon. The predators looked to these newbies to fulfill all sorts of personal gratification. The Christians knew they had to get to them first.
So who are the vulnerable in our society? How do we become incarnational in their lives? How do we view them not as part of a social justice issue but rather human beings created in the image of God. In this initial writing I am going to identify who some of the vulnerable in our society are, then in future writings how we can engage in discipleship with those that are vulnerable.
What makes someone vulnerable? In my mind it is someone that is not in the majority of the population. It is a person or groups of people who do not the majority standing up for them. They are not in the “in crowd” of society. In general they are not lobbied for, advocated for, and are forgotten. Who are these people on outskirts of our church, small group, or Christian community? Are we aware of them? How are do our gatherings, informal community events, and Christian culture exclude them?
I have seen many signs outside churches that say all are welcomed. Is that really true? in theory yes but in actuality no. Lets look a little deeper into those that may not be welcomed not intentionally but unintentionally.
Parents of special needs children- The statistics are staggering. 83% of special needs parents get divorced. So this should read mothers of special needs children, but most of the fathers can’t deal with it. I see this first hand with what my wife goes through in going to “church” on Sunday. Just the physical strain of lifting 75 pounds of dead weight and, putting a wheelchair into the car. I fully believe that moms of special needs children are some of the loneliest people in our society. While “normal” moms are off carting their kids to “normal” activities the special needs mom is a nurse, care taker, and best friend to these children.
The horror stories I have heard with many of these moms in regards to church is so sad. If a special needs child doesn’t function in a school setting why do we think they would function in a children’s ministry that is based on the school system?
This doesn’t even have anything to do with their view of God, and comments from other Christians. Many well intended but never the less hurtful.
As I have interacted with many of these parents women especially they are tough, they are persevering, but they need encouragement. These are such special precious people who every day of their lives is much harder than most of us could even imagine.
Special need children- I read recently that 90% of special need people are sexually abused. Let me say that again 90%. Even if that isn’t a 100% accurate that is an awful lot of kids being taken advantage of. These are some of the most precious and vulnerable people we have in our society. How are we interacting and engaging with these PEOPLE? I recently had Kyle in his wheel chair with me and Jill said watch how people avoid you and just see the chair. I argued no I am going to a place where I know all the people. Unfortunately she was right. They didn’t see him as a person.
Is there a spot for them in the Kingdom of God? Is there a place where we can learn from them? Is there a way they can serve God and be part of our community? I unfortunately don’t see a whole lot of examples.
I don’t know what a special needs person relationship with God is, but I believe in a sovereign God who doesn’t make mistakes. I believe He is bigger than special needs and He created them for a specific purpose.
How do we treat our special needs brothers and sisters? Do we allow them to be active in our communities or do we tolerate them? Do we give them the half human treatment?
Unfortunately the predators have won many times in these battles, again if the stat above is even close to being true, where is the Church? What are we doing while the wolves take advantage of these creations made in the image of God?
The mother considering abortion- Yes we all agree abortion is wrong- but then what? What happens if someone doesn’t have an abortion? Who is the face of someone about to have an abortion? It probably doesn’t look like a typical married 30 something white woman.
Is this mother considering the abortion the enemy? Probably not, she is a vulnerable person, she is someone whose dream has been shattered, whether it was a baby who isn’t perfect, or with a boy she thought would love and take care of her, or by someone who took advantage of her.
This is a fragile women whose hope and dreams don’t match reality. Where are for her? Where are we when she chooses the easy way out or the extremely hard way? Are we walking with her?
The sexually abused child- If we think that the Catholic church is the only church with this issue we are badly mistaken. Do we want to know how prevalent this is in our churches and families? I don’t know if we could handle the answer and come up with a solution/
These people are each vulnerable in their own way, and I use the word vulnerable and not victim because they aren’t victims. These people can be parts of our communities, they can serve and be valuable but they need us to see them. We don’t need to patronize or feel sorry for them, rather we need to purposefully invite them in. Each description above is generalization with some personal examples in each.