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UPDATE! 6 pm, NOT 6:30 – Hope you’re coming!

This Sunday (Aug 14) we’re starting something… Or maybe we should say continuing something. Those of us who have connected around this Blackbird Network have spent the summer thinking and praying about what God might be inviting us to do and to be next. Even though it’s tough to say exactly what that is going to be, we feel a sense of urgency about getting started. So that’s happening (whatever “that” is) this Sunday night, at LifeBridge at 6:00PM (I’m an idiot and said 6:30 earlier… it’s 6!).

Here’s what we do hope and expect for that evening:
Putting even more like-minded people together. Many of the people that got to hang out together on Tuesdays at Blackbird actually represent groups of mission focused, organic church, intentional community believers. And even though “we” know each other, the people in the groups we represent do not. A great part of what is starting Sunday is about getting people together. As a community we are definitely more than it ever may feel we are as individual parts.

Music and worship. When we get together Sunday night at LifeBridge in Valparaiso, we’ll have some live music and the chance to worship together as one community, one body.

Short teaching. Each time we meet, beginning this Sunday night, we’ll rally around a brief message that is geared toward equipping people who are active about following Jesus. Right now, we’re shooting for about 20 minutes of teaching to help set a frame for what’s next…

Discussion and response. These Sunday nights are also a great opportunity to hear what God is doing and saying to others within this community. We want to hear stories and struggles and reaction to the message we just heard.

Prayer and possibly cookies. The most potent aspect of this whole thing is the chance to pray with one another. If you’ve got needs or know of things from within your circle of the world, we need to hear about them so we can bring them before the Father together. And then maybe we’ll get to hang out and eat some cookies together afterwards.

So, we really hope you’re coming. If you need more specific info, leave a comment here and somebody will help you out.

Filters

In the last two years I have probably been challenged more in different aspects of my faith than ever before.  Over the last few months I have been wondering why?

Obviously the Bible hasn’t changed in my life time, there hasn’t been any new found truth that has suddenly emerged.  Yet I feel that I am reading it in a new light, with new vigor, and thinking this may transform some of my fundemental thoughts on life.

Instead of the Bible and it’s words changing, maybe it is my filters that are changing.  Maybe the Americanism that is so ingrained in my life is beginning to break apart and allowing me to see things that have always been there but my filter covered them up.

How do my filters change what the application of scripture is in my life?  An example- for the first time in my life, I know many people who are unemployed. Corporately and personally I have spent much time in prayer. Is this wrong? I am sure it isn’t, but if I was in Africa or any other third world country would this consume my prayer life? I highly doubt it.  How does the American filter affect my trust and faith?  How does my financial status affect my reading of the scriptures? This I know affects it greatly.

Consumerism is an area that I hadn’t read much about or heard sermons about until late. I truly believe this has been a huge blind spot in the western church for the past 100 years. How has this filter affected me? How has my interpretation of scripture been distorted?

I was reading a book awhile ago about race and the church. In it was a photo copy of a flier that churches in the southern part of America used to promote slavery and racism with scripture as its backing.

Filters happen no matter what context we are in.  We need to recognize this, and not allow the culture bias’ of our context  to dictate our interpretation of scripture. It is very easy for a culture to be so comsumed with one aspect of scriptures to ignore other parts.

One of the beauty of the body of Christ is when we humbly come together and listen and learn from other followers of Jesus and listen to the gospel through their filters.

An anology would be when we are kids thinking everyone grew up like us, thought like us, and had the same experience.  We grow when we realize that others can have different experiences and that they aren’t wrong.

I believe in a God that is multi facet enough to create both the American, and every other person in every culture of the world. There are many things I can learn about God through seeing and listening to other people.

But I have to realize that some of my faith isn’t based on scripture and based on my cultural influence.

Why?

This may be the question that we as followers of Jesus don’t feel that we get a good answer to.  Why did this happen in my life? Why is there pain and suffering in the world? Why am I not getting healed from my physical or other kind of problem in my life? Why are some people healed and others aren’t?

I don’t have a good answer and am not going to even try to answer the question. My question is, is why the right question?

Is why the right question? If we get an answer is it going to change our faith and relationship with Jesus? Of course sometimes we find out the why and it turns out the way we thought it would, but many times we don’t know the why.  Are we ok with that?

I don’t believe it is random why some are healed and others aren’t. I don’t believe it is random why some go through extremely difficult situations and others don’t. But I don’t believe I know the answer why.

it is very easy and comforting for us as followers of Jesus to answer simple, universal answers to pain and suffering on both an individual level and a world level.

It is very easy to become the voice of God, we can quote a story where God’s vengence was seen or we can quote a verse about God’s compassion for the afflicted. Both sides are there in the Bible. We can see both sides and sometimes I wonder why God spared some lives and not others. I am sure there is someone out there who could give a very long answer to this question.

But is all of this the point- do we go around trying to help people answer the question of why? I don’t know if I see that in Jesus’ life or teaching. I don’t know how much time He spent answering the universal why question? Yes He did it in some settings, but I see His bigger concern was trust and belief.

I don’t believe questioning is bad, and I think it is very helpful. I don’t think what is so helpful when we as humans try and tie every why question up in a neat little 140 character twitter answer.

I don’t know if the point of trials, and tragedies in life is for us to have the why question answered. The bigger point is how are these situations alllowing us to be more like Christ? How are we becoming more patient, kind, loving, and trusting in the midst of the garbage that happens to us.

Is that the point? Is the point we can’t do this life on our own, and obviously some have it more difficult than others but do we trust God  in the midst of this ?

There are many things in life I don’t understand and to be honest I don’t expect an answer to why, but do I have a peace that God know’s what He is doing?

Creating program managers

Last week we had the opportunity to interact with some material that is extremely useful and good. It was by Mike Breen and 3D Ministries. The information could be extremely helpful in making disciples.

During a debriefing time earlier this week with some of the conference goers a concept came up that made m shiver- paraphrasing what the person said “if we are being successful in making disciples should we start doing this model?” That question sums up a paradigm in churches that make us uneasy.

If the information we recieve at a conference is really good and it helps me create disciples shouldn’t it work for everyone? Questions are often heard (and I have said them myself) like how do we get everyone on the same page? How do we create uniformity?

I realize that we sometimes do a good job of creating good program managers rather than disciple makers. I have been through many conferences, and heard many good questions from skeptics about a new “discipleship” program/paradigm.  The presenter will give all the reasons why this “new” way of doing things will fix the problem that the old system didn’t do.

I am not saying that there are many programs and models out there that have been great tools to help people develop in their identity in Christ, relationship with Him, and the mission He has given them.

What I am saying is when I start defending a model and making the model into the cure all, there may be a problem.

How instead can we help people defend the fact that they listened to the Spirit and this is where they were led? Now of course there is tension in this and programs aren’t bad just as someone living by themselves only listening to the Spirit and denoucing any rebuke is good.

It is very easy to read our lives into Jesus’ and defend what we do by saying well look at what Jesus’ was doing. I just wonder how Jesus made His followers into disciples? There was intentionality to it, but I don’t see the program that we try and do. As we read in Acts we can see that the passion is what drove them, not a program.  Just as we can’t legislate morality, can we program discipleship?

Man do we try, and I try and have tried.  But in my life it has to be in my dna, it can’t be an outside force but a force that comes from the inside. It can’t be something that I try and just teach, but it has to be something I live out. It can’t just be a list but something that encompasses everything.

As pastors and leaders it is so easy for us to program managers, even when we want to change it is easy for us to exchange an old program for a new one. It is easy for us to change the nuts and bolts but not the culture.

I love Mike Breen’s stuff in making disciples, but my fear is that people will jump on this new band wagon and get the same results as they did with the last program.

You are no longer company

“The guys in this picture were my family while I was in the military. ” Larry began the story. It almost midnight on a Saturday night, we had been playing cards since 7, it was past my bedtime and I was beginning to dread waking up at 6:30 to get ready for church. But I couldn’t leave at that moment because the story continued.

“I am the godfather of this guys kids, and we have been close ever since.” “I tell them whenever they come over they are not company but family.” Larry finished explaining to Scott (my friend visiting). Larry finished “You know it is like that in this neighborhood I think of all of these guys not as company but as my family.”

The common theme of community, and what defines it or what it looks like is taking on a shape and a visual image. Larry sees it, just like the rest of us see it.

Family we sometimes love by default. We are stuck with them, there is a commitment that transends time, arguments, and distance. Sure there are times when families become estranged but that is more the exception rather than the rule.

As Larry spoke those words to Scott and I the other night, the words of Jesus rang in my ears. John 15:15

 
I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.

Jesus changed the relationship He had with his followers. I love that phrase “because a servant does not know his master’s business.” They were kept at a distance, away from the important stuff.

I think of my relationship with Larry- it could be said “because company does not know Larry’s business.” When we are company the house is made tidy. The time is defined (you will arrive at 5 and leave by 10) . The talk will be pleasant and superficial. Then you will go and we will all smile.

The amazing parellel is Jesus being God invited a bunch of yahoos into His life and called them friends. He was willing to let them in on everything He knew from God. He was allowing the disciples into his life on a personal level, friends connotates a much more equal relationship. Which is something I can not wrap my brain around.

Larry has done the same thing with his neighbors. He has said you are no longer just company but you are family. You are invited to dig through my frig, come over any time. As the phrase in spanish goes “Mi casa es su casa.”

Larry understands community more than most Christians I know. He has put himself into a vulnerable position just as Jesus did. When we invite people into our lives we have the chance of being let down, hurt, or people mismanaging our stuff.

Larry has taught me about playing cards, he has taught me all sorts of new cuss words, and his advice on life and women. But above that Larry has taught me about community in a way that isn’t normal. But maybe it is ideal because Jesus did the same thing with His disciples.

Signs of Community

Fact: Dogs love to be scratched on their bellies.  In order for this to happen they roll over they get themselves in a vulnerable position.  A level of trust has occurred for a dog to trust a human to do this. 

People in general want to be known, and have in my opinion a God given yearning to be in community both with God and other followers of Jesus.  They much like dogs have a scratch that needs itching but it puts us in a vulnerable position in order for this to take place.

There is constant talk of community and the desire for it, but as many have said community is messy, difficult, and sometimes can hurt.  But when we see people proverbially roll over onto their bellies that is when we have gotten some where, when people are vulnerable enough to allow us to bring them something they have been longing for.  We aren’t any different than any other person on this planet, yet the hope and true community of God is what fills that scratch.

Recently I have observed people that are beginning to be a community and have found some signs that may be universal.

1. Community can be seen when people invite you into their homes spontaniously- it is great for us (as followers of Jesus) to model hospitality but we know that community has begun to happen when people begin inviting us into their homes. Many feel inferior, shameful, and scared to allow us into their homes.  It is easy to plan for a party and guests, but what if we don’t get the chance to tidy everything up or have our junk lying around? As we are invited into people’s physical personal space they begin to allow us into their personal lives.

2. Community can be seen when people begin sharing secret passions/gifts. There are many of us who are ashamed or bashful about gifts/talents we have. We only share these with people we trust.  This has been one of the surest signs trust has happened when those that are more introverted start coming alive. Recently I was talking with a man and he loves to garden, and one of his neighbors was a little aprehensive but finally had the courage to ask “can you help me garden?” Undeveloped or talents that aren’t defined can make people feel insecure and fearful in sharing.

3. In a missional context they allow you in to their sinful lives- As a pastor there are certain places that people don’t allow me into. There are certain parts of lives that are off limits. Again fear, and shame come in. It is much like the women at the well or the women caught in adultry with Jesus.  The expectation is to be stoned, humiliated, and condemned. Jesus example in these situations was not this way, and many times we don’t follow His example because we are scared.

I have had it happen more times than I can count when someone knows I am a pastor “I am so sorry for the language I used.”  There is a front put on and just like the face many put on going into a church building.  It takes much trust and relationship to build trust in these situations.  But when we do what happens? I was recently asked if I would like the daily porn joke sent to my phone? Many would take offense or be scared to death of this thought. (I told them no) But there is a much deeper issue here, if we are going to be involved in people who aren’t following Jesus we are going to be asked questions like that. In the community of pre-Jesus followers I am with that is currently a habit that they do with each other. In some ways they are saying we want you in our lives. 

After telling them no, they said well I didn’t think so, but we wanted to ask. What is the sin culture like in the people you spend time with? It is a complement when they ask you. Don’t do it, but decline in a humble manner.

Jesus was invited into all sorts of uncomfortable situations that many “Christians” would be scared to death of. 

We have a chance to live and be part of communities- our prayer is that you will listen to Jesus as he leads and guides you. But it will be scary as people proverbially roll over and let you scratch their bellies.

Using your gifts is a lot more practical than mythical

What does God want me to do? A common question that we get asked many times a month. 

Personally I believe this a much simplier answer than we make it out to be.  Is there a mythical quality, or a gigantic answer that will save the world? I believe in most cases no. It will be simple and it will be within the the passion God has given each of us.

Yesterday, it happened. A mom who just had her third baby was busy doing “church” stuff and a grandmotherly lady swooped in collected the baby, and throughout the morning never parted with the baby. 

Did this grandmother understand her passion? Did she realize that she was fullifilling a need? Did she do what jst came naturally? Probably more of the third- she did what came naturally. If she had sat and thought about it, she would probably verbalize that it was her passion, and being a mom at one time she would remember the struggles.

Does our passions come naturally? In most cases I would think yes, they do come naturally. God has created with compassion, love, understanding, and a heart for certain things. I think of one of my friends who is a proscecutor.  He has a heart and a passion for justice. it spews out of every part of his life. 

One might say that is great but I don’t have know what my passion is? One question that could be asked is what do you do because you love it and you don’t care if you get paid for it or not?

I have been reading Drive by Daniel Pink and it is an interesting look at what motivates people. In our culture money we think is the primary motivating factor. Pink’s premise is money is not the factor. In our area of passion I would surmise this also holds true.

Of course we need to live and survive but after that, in Pink’s studies money is not a huge reason why people do things.

Do we observe people in American church settings using their passion for the Kingdom of God? Maybe that is part of the problem, we don’t have the opportunity to use those passions.

Recently I was talking with some of my neighbors and a couple of them have a passion for gardening and one has a passion for hosting parties. So they decided they are going to throw a hog roast with roasted corn from their gardens in July.  That is a perfect example of a community coming together and using gifts, abilities, and passions of its members.

How are we doing this in our communities? How are we encouraging, valuing, and creating space for others? How are we allowing people to be the people God created them to be?

This is a huge part of discipleship. I loved the imagery of God hand crafting us in His image. I image God sitting and sculpting each and everyone of us. How can we continue to help people become who God has created them? I fully believe that we can not mass produce disciples, but we can invest in the people God has put around us to help them become more like Christ.

The vulnerable- an Intro

 

 ”We look for those who are going to be preyed upon and get to them before anyone else does.” Were the words used to describe what the Christian Community did. “We can tell which the vulnerable are by the way they walk, talk, and hold themselves.” The vulnerable in this context were new inmates coming into prison. These were the men that the predators preyed upon. The predators looked to these newbies to fulfill all sorts of personal gratification. The Christians knew they had to get to them first.

So who are the vulnerable in our society? How do we become incarnational in their lives? How do we view them not as part of a social justice issue but rather human beings created in the image of God. In this initial writing I am going to identify who some of the vulnerable in our society are, then in future writings how we can engage in discipleship with those that are vulnerable.

What makes someone vulnerable? In my mind it is someone that is not in the majority of the population. It is a person or groups of people who do not the majority standing up for them. They are not in the “in crowd” of society. In general they are not lobbied for, advocated for, and are forgotten. Who are these people on outskirts of our church, small group, or Christian community? Are we aware of them? How are do our gatherings, informal community events, and Christian culture exclude them?

I have seen many signs outside churches that say all are welcomed. Is that really true? in theory yes but in actuality no. Lets look a little deeper into those that may not be welcomed not intentionally but unintentionally.

Parents of special needs children- The statistics are staggering. 83% of special needs parents get divorced. So this should read mothers of special needs children, but most of the fathers can’t deal with it. I see this first hand with what my wife goes through in going to “church” on Sunday. Just the physical strain of lifting 75 pounds of dead weight  and, putting a wheelchair into the car. I fully believe that moms of special needs children are some of the loneliest people in our society.  While “normal” moms are off carting their kids to “normal” activities the special needs mom is a nurse, care taker, and best friend to these children.

The horror stories I have heard with many of these moms in regards to church is so sad. If a special needs child doesn’t function in a school setting why do we think they would function in a children’s ministry that is based on the school system?

This doesn’t even have anything to do with their view of God, and comments from other Christians. Many well intended but never the less hurtful.

As I have interacted with many of these parents women especially they are tough, they are persevering, but they need encouragement.  These are such special precious people who every day of their lives is much harder than most of us could even imagine.

Special need children- I read recently that 90% of special need people are sexually abused. Let me say that again 90%. Even if that isn’t a 100% accurate that is an awful lot of kids being taken advantage of. These are some of the most precious and vulnerable people we have in our society. How are we interacting and engaging with these PEOPLE? I recently had Kyle in his wheel chair with me and Jill said watch how people avoid you and just see the chair. I argued no I am going to a place where I know all the people. Unfortunately she was right. They didn’t see him as a person.

Is there a spot for them in the Kingdom of God? Is there a place where we can learn from them? Is there a way they can serve God and be part of our community? I unfortunately don’t see a whole lot of examples.

I don’t know what a special needs person relationship with God is, but I believe in a sovereign God who doesn’t make mistakes. I believe He is bigger than special needs and He created them for a specific purpose.

How do we treat our special needs brothers and sisters? Do we allow them to be active in our communities or do we tolerate them? Do we give them the half human treatment?

Unfortunately the predators have won many times in these battles, again if the stat above is even close to being true, where is the Church? What are we doing while the wolves take advantage of these creations made in the image of God?

The mother considering abortion- Yes we all agree abortion is wrong- but then what? What happens if someone doesn’t have an abortion? Who is the face of someone about to have an abortion? It probably doesn’t look like a typical married 30 something white woman.

Is this mother considering the abortion the enemy? Probably not, she is a vulnerable person, she is someone whose dream has been shattered, whether it was a baby who isn’t perfect, or with a boy she thought would love and take care of her, or by someone who took advantage of her.

This is a fragile women whose hope and dreams don’t match reality. Where are for her? Where are we when she chooses the easy way out or the extremely hard way? Are we walking with her?

The sexually abused child- If we think that the Catholic church is the only church with this issue we are badly mistaken. Do we want to know how prevalent this is in our churches and families? I don’t know if we could handle the answer and come up with a solution/

These people are each vulnerable in their own way, and I use the word vulnerable and not victim because they aren’t victims. These people can be parts of our communities, they can serve and be valuable but they need us to see them. We don’t need to patronize or feel sorry for them, rather we need to purposefully invite them in. Each description above is generalization with some personal examples in each.

Staying focused

It is so easy for me to drift.  It is subtle and I don’t even realize it until I wake up one morning and think what am I trying to do?  Drifting is especially easy when I am intentionally being in close community.

Idon’t know what images are conjured up when the word accountability is used, but many times this word is used only in the context of sin management. Is this the extent of accountability in our journey in following Jesus? While being accountable for our actions is important that isn’t where it stops.  Do we naturally live out the great commission? Do we intentionally disciple others and give of ourselves? Do we enjoy the disciplines of our Spiritual Life? If left to my own devices those things do not come naturally to me. I need some sort of accountability.

Maybe the problem I and others may have with accountability is they don’t come from friends or those we are in close community with. Sometimes those we percieve as close to us don’t ask the hard questions. Maybe we think that would ruin the relationship. Sometimes we like to be comfortable as opposed to challenged.

What would happen if we began asking the hard questions of each other in close community? As I have been reading through “Launching Missional Communities” by Mike Breen there are two questions that they use as “accountability” questions. 1. What is God saying to you? 2. How are you responding?

Those are great starting points in thinking through accountability- as we look at our communities are we bold enough to ask people what God is saying to them? It may be small or it may be life changing but are we helping others process that personal relationship each of us has with God?

Thinking about those two questions and having others ask me them is helping me stay focused. It is very easy to ignore the voice of God when we are alone, it is a little harder when we have people reminding us of it.

If left to my own devices I will choose comfort and if God asks me something different I try to ignore it, so as we journey together lets continue encouraging each other to listen to what God is saying.

Engaging Entrapanuers

When we think about those who start new ventures and have the strategic thinking to get these off the ground, how are we engaging these people? How are we engaging, challenging, and using the gifting that those are created this way?

Recently we have started a group with people who are wired this way.  As we have encountered successful entrapanuers we have found that they are generally disengaged in the church. They may be involved in some small level, or used when there is a need for money. In general though we have found that they have not used their greatest skills in dreaming and strategic thinking in a meaningful way in building the kingdom of God.

We are exploring and dreaming with this group of men (although it doesn’t just have to be). We are asking many questions about discipling and being on mission. From the practical of how do we balance work, family, God etc?  To the bigger questions of what is the dream God has given me to serve Him? How can I disciple those that work for me? How can I work less and serve more?

This group is exciting to work with as the dreams and the possibilities are endless. Not only can we dream but these are the type of people who have the reputation and the track record to make it happen.

As I talked to a man yesterday he shared how he just hired a guy who is looking to move to Africa to run an orphanage.  He is going to work for my friend until he leaves.  My friend is going to be flexible. I am sure discipleship will happen during the working time.

Discipleship with men can and does happen when men are working.  Business’ can benefit all sorts of different purposes, but they have to be intentional.  If the purpose is to make money to support ministry financially that is good, but that can be short changing alot of other possibilities.

As we continue to learn together we will be sharing aspects of discipleship and mission that these men and women are doing as they follow Jesus.